Sunday, August 10, 2014

I Never Meant To Retire

For days preceding my heart attack I had been experiencing severe tightness in my chest and a great deal of difficulty in taking deep breaths. For the life of me, and it almost cost the life of me, I don't know why I resisted going to the hospital. Was it because I had no insurance or didn't want to face reality, I can't say. The pains culminated on a Friday or Saturday night, I can't remember. Mary and I walked into the Fire Station at the end of our block and the EMT's hurried me to St. Francis Hospital. By mid-week I had had a double bypass surgery and within 5 days I had returned home. It never occurred to me that effectively I had retired from making a living.

Looking back I am somewhat astonished that I conceived, planned and executed a city-wide forum for the study of services for recidivists released from prison. Then Governor Blagojevich, had established a task force to look into the matter and Mary and I attended a forum in Chicago on the west side. Observing what was taking place I determined we needed to invite this task force to come to Evanston and conduct a similar forum there. I remember the Mayor at the time being miffed that she wasn't invited by the Governor himself. I asked the Rev. David Handley if we could use 1st Presbyterian to hold the event, he said yes. He knew who I was from Reba Place Church, a committee in the church would examine my request which they later approved.

 I sent out Press Releases and invitations to several key elected officials and department heads carbon copying everyone who I was inviting. It was going to be difficult for them to disregard this event knowing who else was invited. I then sent out invitations to several Pastors of various churches who had ever spoken about the need for services for ex-offenders. Mary is the Professional Organizer in the family but I was proving I wasn't to shabby myself. I'd have to say the event was a success. The City gave a local church operated prison ministry $10,000 as a result of the light that was shed on the problem brought out be the conference.

 Over the years I have lived in Evanston, ever since I stepped off the El and entered Reba Place Fellowship, straight from Prison's gates, I had been involved as what is now popularly called community activism. I had previously conducted campaigns for Alderman of my ward, for the City Parks and Recreation Board, and for 3 years was a volunteer with COE-POPS. COE-POPS were a predominantly African-American organization that monitored the streets through the summer months in response to considerable activity by gangs.

 My favorite venture was to organize a small group of kids to attend a summer school program that I organized teaching English, Geography and Math, using baseball cards as my text. What started out as a small group of kids in my basement of my apartment building, turned into being invited by the Evanston Recreation Department to use their facilities at Robert Crown and then paying me a stipend to do it. We even found a former Major Leaguer and current Ticket Sales executive for the Chicago White Sox to come and speak to the kids and again as our Keynote Speaker at our year end banquet. A Sox fan even bought all the kids tickets to a night game.

There were several other activities over the years that I'll only briefly highlight. Hosting an Irish lass from Derry in the year of 1983, 5 years of AWANA as a leader in AWANA but also recruiting a dozen kids from our church to attend at another church 3 suburbs away. With the cooperation of those kids we held the first ever racial recognition summer program and doubled the size of the group to include a dozen African American kids for three months, in our church.

 I've coached 12 year old girls in AYSO Soccer knowing nothing about soccer at the beginning but a great deal by the end of our undefeated season.

None of all this activity however, is what I did for a living. I have a massive amount of experience working for a massive amount of companies over the years to numerous to mention for the purpose of this article. At the time of my heart attack however I was working as a painter.

 After my heart attack I would never have the strength or the energy to return to that line of work, or any work that required any significant amount of time. In October of 2005 I would go and live by myself in San Bernardino, California to recuperate at a clinic in Grand Junction, California on a Monday through Friday basis for the next 3 months.

 After my return, in the summer of 2006 I was attending an afternoon Bible Study conducted by the Pastor of Reba then and I remember telling him I doubted seriously that I would live another 10 years.

 For the most part, my life these past 8 years has been very quiet to say the least compared to before. Facebook came along in 2009 and I took to it like a hog to slop. And while Facebook has filled somewhat of a gap in my social life, there has always been something missing. The dialogue is never a conversation, there isn't much depth to posters and pictures and the landscape is to uncertain. Facebook while on the one hand someone can be actively posting on the other hand its shallow at best of truly being sociable.

 So I am going to look for the freedom to be sociable in real time and actively engage myself in real time. I'm not saying I am leaving Facebook permanently, I'll be back in 99 days.

Thursday, July 31, 2014

6 Manly Ways to Settle Your Mind

6 Manly Ways to Settle Your Mind

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The modern man often leads a rather harried life. There are exams to ace, bills to pay, diapers to change, and annoying co-workers to contend with. And unfortunately, we all too rarely carve out pieces of our day in which to defuse our stress and settle our minds.
Every man needs interludes of quiet and rest, not just to think through what’s been going on in his life but also to not think at all. Just to quiet his mind and be in the moment and feel his cares fall away. Traditional meditation is a great way of doing this. But I’ll level with you — I don’t have the self-discipline to sit still for long periods of time concentrating on my breathing. And I actually find it easier to get into a meditative state when I’m doing something repetitive with my hands. These repetitive motions give the brain a little something to do while the rest of it takes a break. If you’ve ever had a great idea while in the shower, washing dishes, or brushing your teeth you will recognize the wisdom in this.
Activities that keep your hands busy with simple, repetitive movements are some of the best ways to settle your mind, find peace from your worries, and gain inspiration in your decisions. So here are 6 manly ideas for getting a little more zen in your life:

Shining Your Shoes

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Shining your shoes can seem like a chore, but as many of you discovered during our 30 Days to a Better Man Challenge, the task can actually be quite therapeutic. There’s something about the smell, the tools, and the technique that makes the job really satisfying. Seeing your dingy shoes transformed into shiny masterpieces acts as a nice metaphor for life; a little elbow grease can turn any mess around. Be sure to check out our illustrated guide and video on the topic as well.

Fly Fishing

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While all fishing can work wonders on your sense of well-being, no type does it better than fly fishing. Fly fishing combines a quiet, peaceful outdoors setting with the unstoppable de-stressing power of rhythmic casting. If the sound of your line whipping back and forth doesn’t put you into a zen-like state, nothing will.

Playing Catch

A lot of us haven’t picked up a baseball glove since we aged out of Little League. But just because you’re not involved in an organized game, doesn’t mean your glove should sit in the back of your closet. Just playing catch can really relax you and is more fun than you remember. Whenever Kate and I are blogging and have writer’s block, we put on our gloves right here in the office and throw the ball back and forth. It really helps.

Whittling

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Gramps did it and so should you. Men’s hands were meant to create, to turn ordinary objects into something special. And whittling is just the manly craft of woodworking writ small; all you need is a stick and a pocketknife. Start practicing and soon you’ll be making your very own chess set.

Chopping Wood

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This is something I got to do for the first time while in Vermont this summer. I have to say, it was an incredibly satisfying experience. There’s just something about swinging that heavy axe and the great feeling you get when it hits the log with a crack, splitting apart the wood. I’ve still got a ways to go in being able to consistently split the logs all the way through in one swing, but even my neophyte attempts were good for the soul.

Exercise

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Whether it’s jogging down a country road or pumping iron, working out is a well-known and unbeatable stress reducer. It not only keeps your hands busy, it engages your whole body while your mind goes somewhere else. With your blood pumping and your testosterone increasing, the irritations of your day are released with your sweat. Some people love having a workout partner, but I personally like to be alone and totally inside my own head. Studies have shown that working out outdoors greatly increases the stress-reducing benefits of exercise, so get out to a park and move your body.
What do you do to settle your mind? Let us know in the comments.

Monday, July 28, 2014

Never Say Never

"It's amazing what you can accomplish if you simply refuse to quit." - Porter Stansberry

What Else Are You Going to Do?

By Craig Ballantyne
My mother's sacrifices kept me out of jail. I truly believe that. She spent years working night and day at her low paying job before coming home each night and practically raising two children on her own. This meant she was constantly putting off taking care of herself. Her sacrifice, combined with the wrong lifestyle decisions and a paucity of knowledge about healthy living started taking their toll. Today, she suffers from high blood pressure and pre-diabetes symptoms. But...

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...since she retired she's been busy making changes. 
Every month when I visit she seems to have added another healthy habit to her daily routine. She walks outside. She has a treadmill for wintertime. I've even stumbled across her doing intervals on it. Intervals! At 70 years old. Her son couldn't be more proud. 
Her diet has improved. There are more greens prepared for every meal when I'm there, and I'm no longer the only one eating them. She mixes spinach into mashed potatoes. She makes fruit smoothies for breakfast. And she's constantly watching cooking shows and scouring the web for healthy recipes. 
Because what else was she going to do? 
Quit? 
What good would it do for her to just give up? What would happen if she didn't even try to eat a little better or exercise a little more? That would only hasten her decline. 
And what of you and your struggles? 
Yes, achieving your goals and making progress in any area of life is hard. But what else are you going to do? Quit? Give up your self-reliance and depend on others? 
No, you're not going to do that. You're going to persevere through the dips and overcome the obstacles that are in your way until you achieve the success you deserve. 
If you smoke, but struggle to stop, are you just going to give in to the addiction until it kills you? Are you going to quit on quitting? 
No, of course not. 
Today you're going to go two hours and fifteen minutes between cigarettes. Tomorrow, two hours and twenty-five minutes between puffs. And so on and so on until you are going days, weeks, months, and years without lighting up. 
If you're trying to lose 25 pounds but progress is slow, what are you going to do? Quit? Remain overweight and unhealthy? Start eating more and exercising less? No, of course not, that will only make it worse. If you fall off track today, then you're just going to start again tomorrow. 
If you're building a new business, yes, it's hard. Results won't come overnight. But what else are you going to do? Quit? Go back to the job you hate, working for a boss that doesn't appreciate your efforts and for a company that doesn't make a real difference in the world? 
No, of course not. You're going to review your vision, put your energy into identifying the right solution for your chosen marketplace, and spend time on improving your offer until it connects with more and more of the people you are dedicated to helping. 
You see, quitting only makes things worse. It might make things feel easier in the short-term, but, in the long run, quitting is the worst thing you can do. 
Giving up on trying to quit smoking would make today easier, but your long-term health would suffer. Quitting your health and fitness program to sit on the couch will give you pleasure today but will make your later years more difficult and full of complications. And quitting on building your own business would reduce your stress this week but would lead to constant worry about the kind of life you'll live during your retirement. 
When the only other option is quitting - and thereby making things worse - then you have no other choice but to soldier on. 
At Christmas time in 1944, while millions of men and women slept safe and sound in their beds in North America, thousands of young men faced the toughest task of their lives in the Battle of the Bulge. It was the largest and bloodiest battle fought by American soldiers in World War II. 
They had stormed the beaches at Normandy. They had marched over 200 miles in the race to Berlin. They lost friends, scores of friends. And now, in the dead of winter, deep in the Ardennes forest, caught by surprise (at Christmas time no less), they were being attacked and pushed back like never before. 
But what were they going to do? Quit? 
No, for that would only have made it worse. Sure it would have been easier in the short-term not to fight, to retreat, to surrender, but that would only have made things worse for them, their fellow soldiers, and the entire war effort. 
Instead, despite freezing in their foxholes day and night, wearing the same clothing for weeks on end, and being denied access to the basic elements of humanity, these young men dug in and took back the line. They sacrificed more than you or I will ever be asked to give, because they knew that quitting was not an option. 
They were beyond the point of no return. 
Just as you are past the point of no return in your journey to success. 
Because what else are you going to do? 
Quit? 
No. You can quit when you're dead. For now, it's time to get out there and finish this journey. As you persevere, remember one of the mottos that I live by. 
"It will all be over soon." 
All bad times come to end. 
Until then, we are left with a powerful choice. To quit or to carry on. If we quit, we only make the ending worse. If we carry on, we will feel the situation getting harder at first. However, everyday that you make progress, things will get better and the future will become brighter. 
Never forget this. 
If you are dealing with a divorce, never forget that there will soon be better days. You will fall in love again. If you struggle financially, understand that there are proven methods to getting out of debt and getting back on track. If you are trying to overcome health problems, know that there are solutions and that there is support out there for you. You can succeed. You can take control of your future. 
Persevere through the dips, and you'll come out stronger on the other side. 
Because what else are you going to do? 
Quit? 
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[Ed Note: Craig Ballantyne is the editor of Early to Rise (Join him on Facebook here) and the author of Financial Independence Monthly, a complete blueprint to helping you take control of your financial future with research of proven methods in your career, in your business and in your personal life. He has created a unique system to show gratitude and appreciation to stay on track for these goals each and every day. Click here to follow the exact 5-minute system you can use to improve your life.]
 

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How to Spot Snake Oil at the Supermarket
Not all olive oils are created equal.

According to a study by UC Davis, about 70% of ‘extra virgin’ labeled olive oils were found to be fake, and actually cut with refined oils.

So how can you tell if what you are buying is the real deal? Here are three things to look for the next time you're at the supermarket:

1. The harvest date
2. Where it comes from (the specific region, not just the country)
3. The cultivars/ what olives the oil is made of

If the label is missing these things, then that’s a red flag that it’s not the real deal. To learn more ways to spot untrustworthy food labels, click here

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Why You Should Spend Every Dollar You Earn 
You might think this sounds crazy but let me assure you, it's not. When I say I want you to spend I don't mean hitting the stores. Instead, I'm talking about allocating.

Elizabeth Warren came up with a spending formula you can follow called the 50/20/30. "50 percent of your income goes to the essentials (groceries, rent, essential utilities), 20 percent goes to savings (savings account, portfolio additions, Roth IRA contributions etc), and the remaining 30 percent goes to what is considered “lifestyle choices). This includes restaurants, your cell phone, clothing, etc."

50/20/30 are guidelines - you can adjust these however you see fit. But it is best to keep your savings at 20 percent or higher.

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The Right Way to Unplug When You're on Vacation
Too many people make the mistake of trying to cut off all ties to technology when they go away. Invetiably this leads to more stress and what was once going to be a relaxing vacation, suddenly feels like a nightmare.

Here are just a few questions you need to ask yourself before you take your next trip. These will help you unplug stress free:

What do I still want to use technology for while I’m away? Make a list of the specific ways you want to use your phone, tablet or computer while you’re on vacation and limit your tech use to what’s on that list.

Which accounts will I disconnect from? It’s easier to disconnect from entire networks or accounts than to ignore work-related correspondence once it hits your radar. Identify which accounts you’ll stay away from and plan accordingly, setting up vacation messages or alerts as necessary.

Are you willing to move travel info out of your email? TripIt is an itinerary manager that you can connect directly to your email account; it monitors incoming emails for anything that looks like a travel confirmation, and puts it into an itinerary you can access from the web or the TripIt app on your phone or tablet. 


For 13 more tips on how to unplug the smart way, click here.

Sunday, July 13, 2014

Father Forgets

Father Forgets

W. Livingston Larned

      Listen, son: I am saying this as you lie asleep, one little paw crumpled under your cheek and the blond curls stickily wet on your damp forehead.  I have stolen into your room alone.  Just a few minutes ago, as I sat reading my paper in the library, a stifling wave of remorse swept over me. Guiltily I came to your bedside.
     These are the things I was thinking, son:  I had been cross to you.  I scolded you as you were dressing for school because you gave your face merely a dab with a towel.  I took you to task for not cleaning your shoes.  I called out angrily when you threw some of your things on the floor.
     At breakfast I found fault, too.  You spilled things.  You gulped down your food.  You put your elbows on the table.  You spread butter too thick on your bread  And as you started off to play and I made for my train, you turned and waved a hand and called, "Good-bye Daddy!" and I frowned and said in reply, "Hold your shoulders back!"
     Then it began all over again in the late afternoon.  As I came up the road I spied you, down on your knees, playing marbles.  There were holes in your stockings.  I humiliated you before your boy friends by marching you ahead of me to the house.  Stockings were expensive--and if you had to buy them you would be more careful! Imagine that, son, from a father!
      Do you remember, later, when I was reading in the library, how you came in, timidly, with a sort of hurt look in your eyes?  When I glanced up over my paper, impatient at the interruption, you hesitated at the door.  "What is it you want?" I snapped.
       You said nothing, but ran across in one tempestuous plunge, and threw your arms around my neck and kissed me, and your small arms tightened with an affection that God had set blooming in your heart and which even neglect could not wither.  And then  you were gone, pattering up the stairs.
     Well, son, it was shortly afterwards that my paper slipped from my hands and a terrible sickening fear came over me.  What has habit been doing to me?  The habit of finding fault, of reprimanding--this was my reward to you for being a boy.  It was not that I did not love you: it was that I expected too much of youth.  It was measuring you by the yardstick of my own years.
     And there was so much that was good and fine and true in your character.  The little heart of you was as big as the dawn itself over the wide hills.  This was shown by your spontaneous impulse to rush in and kiss me good-night. Nothing else matters tonight, son.  I have come to your bedside in the darkness, and I have knelt there. ashamed!
      It is a feeble atonement; I know you would not understand these things if I told them to you during your waking hours.  But tomorrow I will be a real daddy!  I will chum with you, and suffer when you suffer, and laugh when you laugh. I will bite my tongue when impatient words come.  I will keep saying as if it were a ritual:  "He is nothing but a boy--a little boy!"
     I am afraid I have visualized you as a man.  Yet as I see you now, son, crumpled and weary in your cot. I see that you are still a baby.  Yesterday you were in your mother's arms, your head on her shoulder. I have asked too much, too much.

Thursday, July 10, 2014

Measure Twice, Cut Once: Applying the Ethos of the Craftsman to Our Everyday Lives

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Measure Twice, Cut Once: Applying the Ethos of the Craftsman to Our Everyday Lives

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Across cultures and time, the archetype of the craftsman has represented man’s ability to create and has been the mark of mature manhood. He is homo faber – man the creator. Instead of passively consuming and letting things happen to him, the craftsman fashions the world to his liking and proactively shapes and influences it. Ancient philosophers in both the West and the East have used the craftsman as a symbol of he who contributes to his community and as an ensign of humility, self-reliance, and calm industry.
When we think of the archetypal craftsman, images of a bearded man clad in a leather apron and rolled-up sleeves, toiling away in his workshop producing beautiful and useful items comes to mind. What’s interesting is that the ancient Greeks had a much more inclusive idea of the craftsman than our modern conception. Besides masons, potters, and carpenters, the ancient Greeks included jobs now considered “knowledge professions” like doctors, legislators, and administrators under the craftsman label. Even the work of a father was considered a craft of sorts that required the same care and attention to detail as that of the carpenter. Indeed, the ancient Greeks believed that the values and ethos of craftsmanship were things all should seek to live by. In so doing, a man could achieve arete, or excellence, and thus experience eudaimonia, or a flourishing life.
Over time, the ideal of craftsmanship was cordoned off to just the technical arts. Physicians and legislators no longer thought of themselves as craftsmen, but as philosophers and natural scientists who were more concerned with the theoretical as opposed to the practical. Such a shift is a shame, for the principles of craftsmanship truly do apply to every man, whether he makes furniture or crunches numbers. Below we take a look at how these overarching principles of the traditional craftsman can apply to all areas of your life, no matter your profession.
Many of these principles are things we’ve covered before on the Art of Manliness. Make sure to explore the links within this article to more fully understand the concepts held within.

Do Things Well for the Sake of Doing Them Well

Make every product better than it’s ever been done before. Make the parts you cannot see as well as the parts you can see. Use only the best materials, even for the most everyday items. Give the same attention to the smallest detail as you do to the largest. Design every item you make to last forever.” – Shaker Philosophy of Furniture Making
Fundamental to the code of craftsmanship is the desire to do something well for its own sake. Sure, the craftsman often gets paid for his work, but it’s not the paycheck that determines how well he does the job. A true craftsman will work until the job is done and done well, even if he’s working for free. Philosopher and motorcycle repairman Matthew B. Crawford shared a story in his book Shop Class as Soulcraft that exemplifies the craftsman’s compulsive fidelity to this ethic.
A guy had brought an old Magna motorcycle into Crawford’s shop that needed work on the clutch. Crawford could solve the clutch problem just fine, but he also noticed that the engine’s oil seal looked “buggered.” He tried to fix it but didn’t make any headway. Due to the damage and the nature of the oil seal, replacing it would require a lot of work and a lot of time. Frustrated, he left his shop for a smoke. While the smoke filled his lungs, the thought came to him that:
“The best business decision would be to forget I’d ever seen the ambiguously buggered oil seal. With a freshly rebuilt slave cylinder, the clutch worked fine. Even if my idle speculation about the weeping oil seal causing the failure of the slave cylinder seal was right, so what? It would take quite a while for the problem to reappear, and who knows if this guy would still own the bike by then. If it is not likely to be his problem, I shouldn’t make it my problem.”
But as he walked back into the shop, he couldn’t stop thinking about that buggered oil seal:
“The compulsion was setting in, and I did little to resist it. I started digging at the seal, my peripheral vision narrowing. At first I told myself it was exploratory digging. But the seal was suffering from my screwdriver, and at some point I had to drop the forensic pretense. I was going to get that little f***er out.”
Crawford goes on to explain how he’d often bill his clients fewer hours than he actually worked on a bike because of his thoroughness or just his plain curiosity of tinkering with things:
“I feel I have to meet the standards of efficiency that [an independent mechanic] set, or at least appear to. So I lie and tell people a job took ten hours when it might have taken twenty. To compensate, I also tell them my shop rate is forty dollars per hour, but it usually works out to more like twenty. I feel like an amateur, no less now than when I started, but through such devices I hope to appear like somebody who knows what he is doing, and bills accordingly.”
Money wasn’t important to Crawford, just doing the job well for the sake of doing it well was what mattered.
You can apply this craftsmanship ethic to more than just tangible objects. Even if you do more ethereal work, you can do it well for the sake of doing it well. The reward for doing an exhaustively thorough job can sometimes be monetary, but it may very well go unnoticed by one’s customer or boss. The most fulfilling reward of living by the craftsmanship ethic is the feeling of pride that comes with knowing you gave a certain job your damndest effort. It’s the unmatchable satisfaction of seeing one’s inner integrity displayed in the wholeness and quality of one’s external labor.

Plan (But Not Too Much)

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With any project, the craftsman creates twice: first mentally and then physically. Before he sets chisel to stone or hammer to wood, the craftsman has already created his work in his mind. In other words, he plans how to bring out the object from the rough materials and tools before him.
On the other hand, while the craftsman understands the importance of planning, he isn’t over-fastidious about it. Instead of detailed blueprints, the master craftsman prefers the rough sketch because he knows that unforeseen problems (or opportunities) can arise once he’s actually working. The rough sketch, philosopher Richard Sennett argues in The Craftsman, provides a “working procedure for preventing premature closure.” It gives structure, but leaves room for improvisation and change if needed.
Follow the example of the craftsman in the way you plan your life. Envision what your ideal life (and even year, week, and day) would look like and roughly sketch out how you’re going to go about making it a reality. Some folks fall into the trap of trying to plan out every. single. detail. Their over-planning often leads to frustration when things don’t exactly follow their ideal blueprint. Even worse, uncompromising attention to a highly detailed life plan can cause a man to miss out on more rewarding opportunities that he could not have foreseen ahead of time. When planning, sketch out a rough plan on the trestle board of your life and make course adjustments as you actually go about the work of living.

Measure Twice, Cut Once

This is one of the simplest and most memorable maxims of craftsmen, although it’s not always easy to follow through with in your everyday life. Suffice it to say that while you should leave room in your plans for improvisation, when it comes to making decisions that you can’t take back, make sure you’ve studied and pondered the choice thoroughly before you make your “cut.”

Work With What You Got

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The master craftsman understands that most times he’ll never have the ideal materials, tools, or environment to work with. Unforeseen knots are discovered in wood and hidden imperfections in stone are revealed. Instead of becoming frustrated by such curveballs, the master craftsman adjusts his plans and works these imperfections into his creation so that you’d never know they were there. He can sometimes even work the imperfection into a source of strength for the piece.
Sometimes a craftsman doesn’t have the exact tool that he needs, so he improvises with what he has and learns something new in the process. As Sennett argues“Getting better at using tools comes to us, when the tools challenge us, and this challenge often occurs just because the tools are not fit-for-purpose. They may not be good enough or it’s hard to figure out how to use them…However, we come to use it, the very incompleteness of the tool has taught us something.”
Just as the craftsman cannot exactly control what he has to work with, we cannot control every aspect of our life. We’re all given different materials and circumstances to work with. Some of us were born with physical or mental handicaps. Setbacks happen like divorce, accidents, and job layoffs. Instead of working against this resistance, embrace it like the craftsman. Instead of seeing these constraints and contingencies as obstacles, see them as creative opportunities and incorporate them into your life as unique and interesting pieces of texture. Remember, some of history’s greatest men turned what could have been a weakness into a strength.

Cultivate Patience

A good craftsman has the patience to stay with frustrating work, even when it takes longer than he originally thought. He avoids frustration by living by the following maxim: when something takes longer than you expect, stop fighting it and embrace it.
Much of our frustrations in modern life could be avoided if we would just develop this zen-like patience of the craftsman. Us moderns have a perverse expectation that things should happen NOW. We want emails answered immediately and we even expect success to come right away. Mark Zuckerberg is not your average success story, so stop trying to be like him. The reality is that things almost always take longer than expected, especially those things that are good and noble. So instead of fighting it, embrace it as the calm craftsman does. Life will become instantly more enjoyable and less stressful once you cultivate this virtue of patience.

Let Go of Your Ego

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The craftsman willingly opens himself up to teaching, criticism, and judgment from his peers and clients because that’s the only way he can improve. He doesn’t take criticism personally because the craftsman is more concerned about doing good work than feeling good about his work. A true craftsman understands that nobody cares how he feels about his work. In the end he knows that the only question that matters is: “Does it work?”
According to Crawford, “the tradesman must reckon with the infallible judgment of reality, where one’s failures or shortcomings cannot be interpreted away.” The work of the craftsman isn’t wishy-washy. The craftsman must be able, as Crawford notes, to point and say, “the building stands, the car now runs, the lights are on.” Besides being able to concretely demonstrate whether his creation or repair actually succeeds, the craftsman must also face instruments that determine whether his work is “true” — the level, the square, the compass, the plumb, the ruler. There’s no fudging with these tools. The shelf a carpenter made is either level or it’s not.
Modern culture has indoctrinated us that it’s more important to feel good about our work than to actually do good work. Self-help and career books tell us that we should find work that feels “authentic.” School children are taught that the only thing that counts is their effort, not if their work is actually good or correct. Crawford calls this emphasis on feelings as opposed to results a consumer ethic as opposed to a craftsmanship ethic.
The problem with the consumer ethic is that it creates individuals with self-inflated and fragile egos who are unable to withstand the sometimes harsh criticisms and judgments that invariably come in life and in work. Clients and bosses don’t care if you felt “authentic” when writing a memo or if you tried really hard on a project. All they care about are the results. In life, it often takes mistakes in order to get better. You can’t get better if no one ever points out your failings.
If you wish to become the best man you can be, you must rid yourself of the consumer ethic of feelings and replace it with the craftsmanship ethic of results. Does your creation work? Does it look good? Does it add something to the world? If not, seek feedback and use that criticism to improve your work.

Develop Your Practical Wisdom

Through years of experience, the craftsman develops what Robert Greene calls a “masterly intuition.” He can sense problems and solutions by merely looking at an object or listening to it operate. I liken it to how a man will often know if there is something wrong with his car just by feeling the way it drives or hearing something subtle that wasn’t previously there. Crawford argues that the master craftsman’s ability to intuit and work by “hunches” allows him to “know what do when the rules run out or there are no rules in the first place.” It’s what allows a good auto mechanic to diagnose a transmission problem even when the computerized test equipment says the car’s transmission is a-okay or a carpenter to know what sort of joint would work best on a project.
Aristotle called this kind of intuition phronesis, or practical wisdom. The ancient philosopher believed that the phronesis was a virtue that all men should develop, not just carpenters or masons. Practical wisdom is what allows us to make good judgments when we face decisions when there’s no clear right or wrong answer. It gives us the ability “to do the right thing, at the right time, for the right reason.” Aristotle argued that practical wisdom for everyday life develops the same way craftsmen develop theirs — through experience and trial and error.

Mastery Brings Meaning

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Mastery is the goal of the true craftsman. As an apprentice, the would-be craftsman devotes years of his life humbly submitting to quiet observation. He watches his master work and gives an attentive ear to his instructions. After years of passive observation, an apprentice begins experimenting his craft to determine his skill. Through years of trial and error, he slowly hones his skill to a sharp edge. Even when a craftsman has obtained the level of master, he continues to dedicate his life to constant improvement. He understands that by increasing his ability, he increases his value. By mastering his trade, the craftsman is better able to live by the craftsmanship ethic, which in turn allows him to feel deeper personal satisfaction, develop confidence, contribute to his community, and thus discover greater and greater meaning and fulfillment in his work.
In Drive, Daniel Pink highlights research that has shown that, contrary to popular belief, it’s not the type of work that we do that leads to personal fulfillment. Rather it’s mastery of our work (along with autonomy and purpose) that brings us satisfaction. If you feel like you’re lacking meaning in your work or in your life, follow the example of the craftsman by seeking mastery. If you’re a computer programmer, make it a goal to constantly improve your programming chops; if you’re a manager, read the latest management research and apply it in your daily work. By seeking mastery, you’ll increase your self-efficacy and your ability to leave a mark on the world.

Find Your Workshop

We often imagine the archetypal craftsman toiling alone in his shop, but historically, the vocation of a craftsman was and still is very social. When a master craftsman wanted to commune with his fellow masters, he’d head to the nearest guildhall where new insights were shared and policies governing the craft debated. And now, as then, a craftsman’s workshop is the real hub of his sociality. Here he mentors and teaches an apprentice or journeyman, works alongside his peers, and interacts with his clients.
The workshop and guildhall give the craftsman a sense of community, identity, and belonging. Crawford says this of the community that craftsmanship fosters:
“So my work situates me in a particular community. The narrow mechanical things I concern myself with are inscribed within a larger circle of meaning; they are in the service of an activity that we recognize as part of a life well lived. This common recognition, which needn’t be spoken, is the basis for a friendship that orients by concrete images of excellence.”
At its core, a craftsman’s workshop is an honor group. It’s home to a small, intimate group of men, where a code of honor — in this case, the craftsmanship ethic — guides and shapes the behavior of those within the workshop’s walls. As we’ve discussed in our post on reviving manly honor, traditional honor inspires and compels men to be the very best. The tight-knit community that honor requires serves as a check on narcissism and reminds a man that he’s not the center of the universe. More importantly, honor gives meaning to a man’s life.
Mimic the craftsman by finding your metaphorical workshop. Be intentional about forming life-long brotherhoods. Find your platoon of men that will hold you accountable to a code of honor that demands excellence and honesty in all you do.
Whether you spend your days knee-deep in sawdust, paperwork, or diapers, by adopting and living the traditional values of the craftsman you’ll find more personal fulfillment and meaning, enrich your family and community, and hammer, mold, and sculpt an indelible legacy as a man.
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Sources:
The Craftsman by Richard Sennett
Shop Class as Soulcraft by Matthew B. Crawford
Mastery by Robert Greene

Thursday, June 5, 2014

You are so beautiful


Shangi la

Hiding in my private shangi la a little different in a Shanghai la but real never the less.  A vivid imagination is all that is required to visit and you can stay as long as you like and the best part of waking up is not a cup of Folgers in your cup but the price is free.

Wednesday, June 4, 2014

Blogspot is no substitute for Facebook

The response to what you post on Facebook is almost instantaneous, whereas the response to an article on Blog-spot can be non-existent.  Also there is 'writer's block' to contend with on blogspot while facebook is filled with subjects to respond to and write about.  Your friends on FB contribute to the ideas from which to respond to and comment on.  You also are not responding to 150 other blogs as you would be to 150 friends.

But wait a minute... I can still see my FB page even if I cannot post on it.  I could still respond to my friends comments.



It's going to be a long summer.

Okay, so I can copy images, that's cool.  Can I tag people on blogspot, like Ken and Mary Cumpston. I guess not.,


Hey look, I copied Tim's dog.  Well, that saves a lot of trouble. 
Photo  Baby Christian squeezing grandma's cheeks.


Wednesday, May 28, 2014

Outraged at Facebook

Yesterday I made some adjustments to my Timeline page. Nothing criminal in that you wouldn't think? At some point in the day Facebook blocked me from any further activity for as they arbitrarily say, "a few days" I am furious as I have been in quite some time. I can still see FB, I just can't do anything on it. Except for one thing, I can go on my page a delete posts and make sure all my pictures are saved on my computer. What infuriates me is there is no place to appeal this criminal conviction for adjusting my own settings. You know how it feels to want to make them pay but you can't. I have nothing but contempt for Facebook. So after all that let's see if they'll accept this, and if they see it they'll probably ban me for life

Wednesday, March 19, 2014

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How Much Money is Enough for a Comfortable Retirement?

How Much Money is Enough for a Comfortable Retirement?

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In 2011, the oldest members of the Baby Boom generation reached retirement age and over the next 15 years, around 8,000 Boomers per day will turn 65. And as more Americans contemplate life in retirement and preparing for it, they need to have a clearer picture of what their income (AGG) needs will be after they’re done working full-time.
Although overall retirement income adequacy for Baby Boomers and Generation X households improved last year, helped by rising stock prices (VTI), the gap between haves and have-nots in retirement readiness is still very wide. Various factors, especially access to 401(k)-type retirement plans, can produce significant individual differences, according to the Employee Benefit Research Institute (EBRI).
In my latest retirement planning video, I talk with Ron Surz at PPCA about calculating the exact sum a person will need to enjoy a comfortable lifestyle. I also examine strategies for people who haven’t saved enough, in addition to reaching a feasible money accumulation goal for individuals who are still working.
Longevity and high health care costs still play huge roles in retirement income planning.
For both of these factors, a comparison between the most “risky” quartile with the least risky quartile shows a spread of approximately 30% for the lowest income range, approximately 25% to 40% for the highest income range, and even larger spreads for those in the middle income ranges.
“It would appear that while retirement income adequacy depends to a large degree on the household’s relative wage level and future years of eligibility in a defined contribution plan, a great deal of the variability in these values could be mitigated by appropriate risk-management techniques at or near retirement age,” said Jack VanDerhei, EBRI research director.

What to buy at Walmart and what to avoid

ConsumerReports.org
Walmart is known for value, but there are also plenty of top-performing products on its sprawling shelves. Then again, you could easily end up with a low-priced dud—which is no bargain in the long run. With those divergent facts in mind, Consumer Reports pulled together a list of Walmart-exclusive winners and washouts from its latest tests.      
Walmart winners
White Cloud 3-Ply Ultra toilet paper.
Our top-rated toilet paper is sold only at Walmart. Its strong, soft, and disintegrates cleanly, so it shouldn’t pose a problem for plumbing. What more could you ask for? How about a very competitive price of 29 cents per 100 square feet? Add it to the shopping cart!
Great Value Strong & Absorbent paper towels. These paper towels just missed our recommended list, but we’ll still call this a Walmart-exclusive winner as they scored highly for absorbency, scrubbing, and wet strength. Plus they're true to their name, with a low price of a just over $2.    
Equate Ultra Protection SPF 50 sunscreen. Hot sunny weather is still a fantasy in many parts of the country, but when it does arrive, this Walmart-exclusive sunscreen will be an excellent option. It was very good at blocking UVA raditation and costs just $9.00 for a 16-ounce bottle.
Grill King 810-2545-C gas grill. Grilling season is just around the corner. Here’s a very good Walmart exclusive model to consider. The $260 grill is fairly quick to preheat, offers great high temp evenness and very good low temp evenness, and its coated-cast-iron grates should resist corrosion.
GE AEW06LQ air conditioner. Also looking ahead to summer, this GE air conditioner offers exceptional comfort at a very appealing price. Several models scored better in our tests, but they often cost a lot more. Plus the GE’s score was dropped by the fact that it doesn‘t blow air well to the right, which might not be an issue depending on your room configuration. 
Walmart washouts
Great Value Naturals laundry detergent.
This detergent is safe for use in all types of laundry machines—just don’t expect sparkling results. Indeed, it is the lowest scoring of all tested detergents, only a bit better than plain water at tackling soils. Though they missed our recommended list, Great Value Original Clean and White Cloud laundry detergents are much better options.
Better Homes and Gardens BG1755B gas grill. Here’s a Walmart grill you should probably pass on. The $360 midsize gas grill got a poor in our tests for high and low temperature evenness, and it was only so-so at preheating.
Bissell Rewind CleanView Pet 18M9W upright vacuum. You can’t beat the price on this $90 bagless upright vacuum, but you can definitely find a better performing model. It was especially poor at emissions, or a vacuum’s ability to hold on to the dirt and dust that it picks up.
Farberware FP3000FBS food processorThis $60 food processor does some things well, including chopping, slicing, and shredding. But it was subpar at puréeing, a function that many people look to when making soups, sauces, and other blended foods. Plus it was one of the noisier models we tested, which could grate on your nerves over time.    
GE 169210 toaster. This $25 two-slice toaster was among our lowest-scoring models. It was especially bad at maintaining consistent results over successive batches of toast. It also was merely average at making an evenly browned single slice of toast.
—Daniel DiClerico

Israeli airstrikes escalate tensions with Syria

Israeli airstrikes escalate tensions with Syria

Associated Press
A wounded Israeli soldier is treated in the Golan Heights, Tuesday, March 18, 2014. A roadside bomb hit an Israeli patrol near the frontier with the Golan Heights on Tuesday, the army said, wounding four soldiers in the most serious violence to strike the area since the Syrian conflict began three years ago. Israel said it responded with artillery strikes on Syrian army targets. Israel captured the Golan Heights from Syria in the 1967 Middle East war and later annexed the strategic area in a move that was not internationally recognized. (AP Photo/Jinipix) ****ISRAEL OUT***
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JERUSALEM (AP) — Israeli warplanes unleashed a series of airstrikes on Syrian military posts early Wednesday, killing one soldier and wounding seven in one of the most serious clashes between the countries in the past four decades.
The airstrikes came in retaliation for a roadside bombing a day earlier in the Golan Heights that wounded four Israeli soldiers on patrol along the tense frontier with Syria. The overnight raids marked a sharp escalation of activity for Israel, which largely has stayed on the sidelines during Syrian President Bashar Assad's battle against rebels trying to topple him.
It is unclear which of the many groups fighting in Syria may have planted Tuesday's bomb. But Israel has said it holds Assad responsible for any attacks emanating from his country, and accused his forces of allowing the attack to take place.
"Our policy is clear. We hurt those who hurt us," Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu said. Defense Minister Moshe Yaalon said Assad would "regret his actions" if attacks continue.
Israel captured the Golan Heights, a strategic plateau overlooking northern Israel, from Syria in the 1967 Mideast war. It later annexed the area, though that move is not internationally recognized.
Gunfire and mortar shells from the fighting in Syria have occasionally landed in the Golan in recent years. Israel has said much of the fire was errant, but has responded with artillery fire in several cases. None of those reprisals, however, were as intense as Wednesday's airstrikes.
The Israeli military said its warplanes hit a Syrian army training facility, an army headquarters and artillery batteries. Israel also had carried out artillery strikes against Syrian military targets shortly after Tuesday's bombing.
The Syrian military said the raids early Wednesday targeted three army posts near the town of Quneitra, on the edge of the Israeli-occupied part of the Golan. It confirmed the death of one soldier and said seven were wounded.
The Syrian army denounced the airstrikes as Israel's "desperate attempt to escalate and worsen the situation" and to divert attention from Damascus' advances on the battlefront, especially the military's capture last weekend of a key rebel stronghold near the Lebanese border.
"Repeating such hostile acts (airstrikes) would endanger the security and stability of the region and make it open to all possibilities," a Syrian military statement said.
Analysts said they did not expect the situation to deteriorate, since neither Israel nor Syria is interested in a full-fledged war. Assad is focused on his battle against the rebels and Israel has little desire to upset a period of relative quiet. Syria's ally, Hezbollah, possesses tens of thousands of rockets and missiles aimed at Israel.
Even so, the area has seen an increase in tensions in recent weeks.
Last week, a roadside bomb exploded near an Israeli military patrol along the Lebanese border, causing no injuries. Israel responded with tank and artillery fire at suspected Hezbollah targets in southern Lebanon.
Earlier this month, the Israeli army said it killed two militants affiliated with Hezbollah — whose forces are fighting in Syria alongside Assad's troops — as they were trying to plant a bomb along the frontier.
Also, an Israeli airstrike last month reportedly targeted a suspected Hezbollah weapons convoy in northeastern Lebanon, though officials in Israel never confirmed it. Hezbollah said it would retaliate for the airstrike, which killed a Hezbollah official overseeing the operation.
Israel stopped short of blaming Hezbollah outright for Tuesday's bombing, but defense officials said the group remained the main suspect.
Israel and Hezbollah are bitter enemies. They fought a monthlong war in 2006 that ended in a stalemate, and both sides have been gearing up for another confrontation.
Israel has said it will not allow sophisticated weapons to flow from Syria to the Iranian-supported Hezbollah. Since the Syrian war broke out, Israel has carried out a series of airstrikes in Syria that destroyed weapons shipments believed to be headed to Hezbollah.
While the Israel and Syria have largely refrained from direct confrontation since the 1973 Mideast war, Israel has shown a readiness to act.
In 2007, Israeli warplanes bombed a suspected nuclear reactor in Syria, and on two previous occasions, Israeli warplanes buzzed over Assad's palace in a show of strength. In 2003, Israel also bombed a training camp belonging to a Syrian-backed militant group that had carried out a suicide bombing in Israel.
Israel also remains concerned that an ouster of Assad could see power in Syria fall to Islamic militants there, particularly al-Qaida-linked groups, and further destabilize the region.
Israeli analyst Ephraim Kam said neither Syria nor Israel want war, and that Hezbollah and Israel are interested in only limited confrontations.
"What can Israel achieve by going to war?" asked Kam, a researcher at the Israeli Institute for National Security Studies. "Syria is not in a position to go to war now, with civil war taking place."
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Associated Press writers Albert Aji in Damascus, Syria, and Bassem Mroue in Beirut contributed to this report.